Falling in love with my husband

Falling in love with my husband

 

Love is so versatile! It is messy, goofy, exhausting, and beautiful! Gosh, I love, love. Do I sound like a hopeless romantic? I sure am!

Have you ever had the feeling of knowing that something is meant to be? I’ve had this feeling several times throughout my life. I especially had this feeling after I met my husband.

I didn’t fall in love with him immediately but I knew after getting to know him better that there was indeed a future for us. I didn’t know when or how things were going to pan out but the feelings came and they grew slowly at first then all at once. It was almost as if he was the last puzzle piece that fit so perfectly to complete me.  I know it doesn’t seem like something straight out of a romance novel but honestly, it felt that way to me.

For most of my life, I’ve dream of what my husband would be like. Some may say I’ve been too overly obsessed but, I am the type of person who’ve always known what I want for a very long time. Although, I must admit that I haven’t had the best of luck when it comes to relationships in the past. However, each one of those relationships prepared me to meet the love of my life; “My real-life prince charming.”

when you know, you know

How we met

I met my husband, LJ, back in 2012. New Year’s Eve to be exact. We were both at the annual New Year’s Eve Dance that our church hosts every year. At the time, I was investigating the church and had been invited by a friend. He approached me and asked me if I’d like to dance but I declined. (you thought it’d be that easy?)  I know you are waiting around for an epic love story but honestly, there is none. To be honest, I barely took notice of him. I was just there to have a good time.

Anyway, a few months later, we became friends and talked constantly. We bonded over our numerous lunch dates and I noticed that he was different. He wasn’t like most guys that I’ve had an encounter with. He was super respectful, patient, and SWEET! I knew that I wanted to keep him around for a long time. He would say that I friend-zoned him for a long time but, the best relationships stem from a solid friendship. Hey, just look at us now!

When I knew I was in love

I knew the moment I realize that I could be around him 24/7 and not get sick of him. If kidnapping wasn’t illegal I probably would have held on to him for a while, though I doubt he would have had a problem with that. After about 2 years of getting to know each other, he left the country for 2 years to serve a voluntary church mission in South Africa. Although I was proud of him for doing so, I was devastated! I just wanted him to be here. I needed to tell him how I felt about him. 

I rehearsed what I should say the following week after he left only for me to just casually slipped it in an email while updating him about the church, ha-ha. During those 2 years, we kept in constant contact and those feelings grew even more. But to be honest two years, and with him being halfway across the world felt like a prison so, we both decided that I should date other people and see where my feelings were. In the process, I met a great guy, but it just never felt right because my heart always belonged to LJ and I couldn’t deny the feelings. 

Our Life

This November makes 3 years of marriage and although it may not be that much in the grand scheme of things, I am happy that we chose each other. He is my best friend; my person and I trust him with my whole heart. I know it may sound scary to trust someone with that much of you but he is a wonderful man and I wish that I can give you my heart just so you can experience the way he takes care of it.

I honestly can’t imagine spending the rest of my life with anyone else.

xo,

Tonisha

This Post Has 3 Comments

  1. Danielle Pemberton

    This so beautiful! To some it may sound to real to be true…but being your friend I get to see it first hand and I see the depths of your relationship. ❤❤ God continue bless your union❤❤

  2. Jared

    Absolutely beautiful!
    I really believe everyone should have this experience of trusting their partners with all their heart. It changes the dichotomy of a relationship fear departs and make room for faith. Thanks for sharing at least I know someone he believes in love in its purest form(offering each other all).

  3. Zia A.

    I love this! All of the best for you guys.

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