I am sure that we can all agree that 2020 has been a different year. A year full of heartaches and reflections but despite all that has happened so far, I know that there is still much to be grateful for. I think that it has helped a lot of us to recognize the importance of family. While many of us were thankful for the opportunity to be home with our families, we were still distracted and isolated by technology, taking us away from what truly matters the most, quality time. While technology is a marvelous invention, we must be careful to never make it the center of our lives. I want to dive a little bit into three types of leisure according to, Orthner & Moncen, 1990.
It involves multiple members of the family doing the same thing but not interacting with each other very much.
E.g.: Watching a movie or tv show
From my experience, this has got to the most used leisure. How many of us are guilty of using “going to the movies” for a date? While I enjoy watching movies with my husband, we both recognized that it isn’t as wholesome and, although we are spending time together, it isn’t quality time. Don’t get me wrong! some of these moments are and can be enjoyable.
Recreational activities that involve high levels of communication and interdependence.
E.g.: Rock climbing, playing chess
Research suggests that these types of activities lead to the highest marital satisfaction. (Holman & Jacquart, 1988; Orthner, 1978) Who would have known that these strenuous activities would bring you more joy in your marriage? I HATE hiking and anything that involves long walking and climbing, but I can tell you that they are my most memorable and enjoyable experiences. My husband and I hiked a bit during our courting stage and we had most of our heartfelt conversations on these journeys. I even learned how to play chess somewhat. I treasure these moments the most.
Those activities are undertaken alone by individuals.
This type of pleasure isn’t bad. We do need time to unwind and enjoy our own company. I think the problem comes when we are lost into doing our own thing that we cannot enjoy good ole family fun.
Wholesome Family Recreation is needed, especially during this time. It can and will bring families together once done with real intent.
What are some activities you enjoy doing with your family?